The Other Side of Attraction: Minimizing Disgust (and maximizing arousal)
Disgust: lazy, clingy, needy, unmotivated, unfun, unfit, unskilled, unaccomplished, unhygienic, unattractive
About a week ago I mentioned this study on disgust and arousal in women. According to the study, there is an inverse relation between the two, and really that should not be surprising.
What can men learn from the study? Well, a few things and here they are:
1. When you arouse a woman, her perception of disgust wains. In other words, you can reverse things.
2. Attraction and disgust are two sides of the same coin. And it’s up to you to rig the coin in favor of attraction and against disgust. When you fight to be attractive to your partner, you are minimizing her perception of disgust.
3. You can take a two pronged approach to improving your relationship: positively increase your attraction factors while positively minimizing your disgust inducing features (what, you dress like a slob? eliminate the disgust factor and replace with an attraction factor: dress well.)
4. Minimizing qualities of disgust does not mean you have to be on your A-game 100% of the time. You still need plenty of down time to relax, rejuvenate and just be yourself. That’s where your male friends and your man cave and your hobbies come in handy.
5. Nothing ever happens in a vacuum. Your primary reason for minimizing disgust factors shouldn’t be the woman at all (though good women are awfully motivating, aren’t they?). It should be for yourself. Disgust factors are negative signs of personal well-being. Replacing disgust factors with attraction factors will naturally increase your confidence and make you a happier man… with or without the woman.