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Masturbation 101 For Guys

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No, this isn’t a how to guide ;)

Masturbation is a completely natural thing. Just like eating. And there’s nothing intrinsically wrong with it. (Again, just like eating, though both can be overindulged). That’s the most important thing to know. And I’m pretty sure most guys know it.

However, here are some general rules about masturbation:

1) Masturbation is a problem if it is an addiction and disrupts your normal life
2) Masturbation to orgasm can undermine both your drive and passion for an actual woman over the next 24 hours. And your performance will suffer because of it.
3) Frequent masturbation to porn can desensitize your brain to sexual stimulation and make it more difficult to gain and hold an erection in the actual act

The important thing to do is to think about masturbation in the context of what you want out of life, and then to use the proper phase frame to control it and not let it control you. Masturbation should not cause guilt or shame. But it should also not be addictive or ultra time consuming. Or even life consuming. Unless that’s what you want out of life. In which case I pity you.

At the end of the day, masturbation is just like anything else: in moderation and in the right context, it’s a great tool for men who either don’t have a partner or who are stuck in an undersexed relationship. Overused, or used without understanding its consequences, it can cause problems.

Written by James

March 23, 2012 at 6:18 pm

Posted in Sexuality

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