Is playing by her rules an act of submission?
Short answer: yes
Long answer: not to her, but to the universe.
When you’re in a relationship one of your tasks is to convey confidence while at the same time not doing or saying anything stupid to make her lose attraction to you. But in playing by her rules, are you taking on a role of submission?
Well, the fact is, you aren’t playing by HER rules. You’re playing by the laws of the universe. And this is what allows you to maintain phase frame within a relationship. You are a scientist. You understand how things work. And you act accordingly. Nothing wrong with that. As a general rule in life, you are happiest when you don’t try to change the world and instead start honoring its rules and limitations.
A fundamental rule about interacting with a girl in the early stages of a relationship is to not discuss the relationship. Girls go cold when you talk about the relationship. I can still remember my first girlfriend. I wrote her a letter ASKING her how far she wanted to go, outlining our options (1st base through home plate!). I also asked for permission to kiss her. Ha. I respected her too much for her own good. I think we broke up within a week.
So, while my natural instinct is to talk things out, I’ve learned over time that often it’s just better to play according to the Universe’s rules. You’ll get the kiss a lot easier if you don’t ask for it and just go get it. So if you want it, go get it.