Avoid The Provider Instinct Until You’re Married
Men have a natural instinct to “display” resources in order to win the sexual favors of women.
Historically, in a more basic state of life, it worked.
Now, it doesn’t. Not for your benefit.
I know that a lot of guys feel the instinct to offer gifts to women they hardly know. I remember as a naive 11 year old giving the girl I had a crush on a $20 bill in an envelope as a gift for Christmas. Ridiculous!
Here’s the deal. You win women over in the modern context with your personality and common interests. You first make her feel safe, and then you excite her. It’s that simple. If you have to rely on anything else, you’ll get taken advantage of.
My advice: be as sparse as possible in your gift giving, whether material or in complimentary words.
Instead, put the time in to learn the nuances of what makes women tick. What pushes their physical and psychological buttons. Learn it, execute it.
